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what we deserve

May 16, 2019 by mish No Comments

“i don’t know why she puts up with him.   i hope that after today’s incident,  she leaves him”

that was the conversation i had with a friend earlier today, as we discussed why some nice people end up being together with jerks.

it brought me back to a movie i had watched, and a line i’ve quoted numerous times –

“we accept the love we think we deserve”

when i first heard this, i pondered over that statement a lot… and it prompted me seeing things slightly differently.

do you agree with this statement?

in a way, a lot of how we live our lives is driven by what we think we deserve.

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being asian…

September 2, 2018 by mish 2 Comments

i’m not too sure if i want to loudly proclaim i was born in singapore, especially after watching crazy rich asians.

there were many bits i could identify with, others i definitely couldn’t (the “comfortable” part). i have to say going to the cinemas with an empty stomach was probably not the best idea as i was salivating looking at the delicious hokkein mee, chilli crab with fried man tou, satay, even durian!  i did actually have ponder for a second wondering how much a cheap scoot flight back to singapore would cost just to eat the food i was seeing on the screen… oh, and of course, to see my family 😛

one surprisingly thing i did have to say was that i realised just how asian i am… as banana as i say i am.  the topics raised, though wildly exaggerated, were something i am sad to say i could strongly identify with.

i’ve experienced too many of the scenarios vividly illustrated in the movie – a parent wanting the best for their kid and thinking their other half wasn’t good enough for the family, a grandmother saying rude things to future family members, being constantly asked whilst overseas to come back “home” to take over the family business, oh and of course the topic of money has to be addressed… perhaps a lot could be summed by the quote i’m confident every asian kid has experienced – “god forbid we lose the ancient chinese tradition of guilting your children”.  i curious to figure out how many asians kids have ended up in therapy processing that guilt, realising they “will never be enough”.

by far the biggest and most noticeable reaction from the crowd in the movie was when astrid profoundly said – “it was never my job to make you feel like a man.  i can’t make you something you’re not.”

it was nice to take a few hours to laugh at the rich chinese culture, though i do wonder – how many non-asians would get the full extent of the satire in this movie?  it is so cleverly put together i have to say i wish it wasn’t so accurate at times.

now back to reality… well, at least i’m a far way from singapore now

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potential

July 29, 2018 by mish No Comments

i’ve been fascinated for the longest time about being the best version of yourself, achieving, doing all you can with what you have.  i wouldn’t quite go as far as mae in the movie the circle, where she says that she is most scared of “unfulfilled potential”.

i’m not so much interested in what natural abilities or gifts or talents one has, but more what you do with what you are given, or born with.. or even harnessing that to the fullest potential.

yes, i’m constantly asking the question, “why”.  why do we do it this way?  especially when i can spot inefficiencies in processes.

what makes someone fulfil 100% of their potential, versus someone that say achieves only 10% … or dare i say, even less than that?  is there something that we (the collective community) can do to, perhaps an environment that can be cultivated, so that we help others reach their full potential?  call me a dreamer, an idealistic, but i have no doubt that the world will be a better place if everyone individually were living the full potential in every area of life.. their best life.

reading this article about heath ledger, i can’t help but be saddened that he didn’t live longer. it sounded like he would have impacted a lot more people if he hung around.  talented in everything he put his hand to… “he was really good at everything”, his friend wrote about him.   for those of you who are living in australia, i’m really keen to see this exhibition – if there’s anyone else interested, lemme know and we can head to canberra together!

and what’s the point of living out your fullest potential you might ask?  it’s not the end goal to get to that pinnacle, but for the benefit of others.

it always is for others.

so shine brightly…. the world needs you!!!

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love. love doesn't mean doing extraordinary or he love.

love doesn't mean doing extraordinary or heroic things. it means knowing how to do ordinary things with tenderness. 
to love someone is to show to them their beauty, their worth and their importance. ~ jean vanier
the way back ~~~~~~~~ i resisted it’s been a lon the way back
~~~~~~~~
i resisted
it’s been a long time since i’d been there
what’s he going to say
what am i going to say
it’s probably going to be awkward

but when i entered
his arms were wide open
right where the door was
almost like he knew i would come back
like he was waiting all along 

i didn’t get to say a word
i just ran to him
and hugged him
tears streaming down my cheeks
i stood there for ages

comfort 
understanding
unconditional love
i knew in an instant he understood
he sees me 

i didn’t have to explain
i didn’t have the words
he just knew
knew more than 
i could even comprehend 

but why was i surprised?
he created me after all
he knows every single hair on my head
he knows my every step
my every thought 

before every thought is formed
any step is taken
he was there
waiting graciously
patiently for me

to come home
to make my way back
into his living arms
all along
he was waiting 

he was there
turns out
the way back 
was the only way
to move forward
serenity. this has been my view over the last two serenity. 
this has been my view over the last two days.  was only planning on stopping one night, but waking up to this was so therapeutic (even though it wasn’t sunny) that i ended up staying here again tonight. 
i always thought i was a beach gal, but i got to say, having a lake side view has been very calming! it’s changed my perception of lake views. 
i’ll definitely be back here again... 

i’m curious - what’s one thing that has surprised u in 2021? 

#dronephotography #bermagui #ingeniaholidays #vanlife
i wonder - could our inability to rest be linked t i wonder - could our inability to rest be linked to our identity? 

i wrote a few thoughts on rest recently and here are some things i’ve been pondering over...

bill johnson said, “busyness is artificial significance.  busyness can make us feel important, but neither our identity or our sense of significance should come from our schedules”
 
don’t be mistaken - it is courageous to give Him space to speak into your life.  it’s brave, to make a deliberate decision not to crowd your life, to deliberately make space. to listen.  to seek Him.  to want to know your maker and creator more intimately. 
 
i don’t know about you, but i think sometimes in my life when i feel overwhelmed, it’s cos’ i have crowded out my life and don’t make space to seek Him and just listen to Him.  or I know what I’m doing isn’t pleasing Him, and I make myself so busy so that I am numb… to everything.. 

here’s a drone shot from today as i spent the day relaxing, chilling and taking it slow on this rainy day! 

i’m curious - especially if u have read to the end of this long post... what do u enjoy doing when u rest?

#dronephotography #bermagui #vanlife #australia #visitnsw
adventure. it’s in my blood... and every so ofte adventure. it’s in my blood... and every so often, i feel the need to explore this great world, to stir my visual senses... travel to different places, experience new things. 
i find that when i get out of my normal environment, it helps me see things differently, think differently, expand my creativity and come up with new ideas. 
i’m grateful for being able to take time out to slow down. breathe. 
selah
new. i sense a change of seasons. a freshness. a new.
i sense a change of seasons. 
a freshness. 
and i’m posting now to remind me of this moment. this feeling. 
now is the time.  i don’t know if i can fully articulate it in words, by every cell in my body senses the change.
finally.
the time is now.
the waiting has passed and i’m declaring a season of fruitfulness, abundance and fullness. 
in the last couple of months but increasing in the last week, i’ve discovered new things about myself, new gifts 🎹, new miracles, new friendships, new communities to embrace, new business, new ideas... at such a phenomenal pace yet with such calm, ease, and flow.  maybe this is the easy yoke i have been pondering over. 
all thanks and to my maker, who creates, provides and sustains everything. 
soli deo gloria

for those of you waiting, i want to say... it was worth the wait. every single second.  cos it tastes all the sweeter knowing the journey it took to get here.
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